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How to Tell Your Loved Ones About Your Bariatric Surgery

Advice from the DCBS team

By Denver Center for Weight Loss and Bariatric Surgery

If you’ve been trying your hardest to lose weight and live a healthier life but can’t seem to get anywhere, you may have reached a point where bariatric surgery is your best option. Similarly, you could be battling with conditions such as diabetes and cardiovascular issues due to your weight and have researched how weight-loss surgery could help. However you arrived at the decision, we frequently get asked how to tell your friends and family about your bariatric surgery. In order to have the support you need before and after surgery, it’s important that you communicate with those near and dear about this next step in your life. Here are a few things to consider. 

Arm yourself with knowledge

Make sure you have done sufficient research on your surgery and any comorbidities you may have. It may even be wise to have your initial consultation with your surgeon so that he can give you all the information that you need. This will make sure you’re able to answer any questions your family and friends may have about your surgery and will help you articulate exactly why you want to have surgery. Your loved ones will then be reassured that you are making an informed decision and aren’t taking the easy route to losing weight. 

Listen to your family and friends 

There’s a good chance your family and friends will have reservations or concerns about your decision. Be prepared to listen to what they have to say and avoid getting overly defensive. Try and understand where they’re coming from, that they’re only voicing their concerns out of care for you, but remain firm in your decision. 

Keep a positive attitude

This is a serious conversation with those who love you most, so it may naturally lead to an argument. They may be wary of surgical procedures in general or feel overly protective, so be ready to break down the common misconceptions about bariatric surgery and let them know that it is a surgery with the lowest possible risks and complications. If they see you are assured of your decision and have done your research, that you also aren’t worried, and that you are excited about this new change, they may start to calm down. 

Lean on them for support 

This is a life-changing event in your life and you will need to be surrounded by those who have your best interests at heart. If you’re getting a major surgery like gastric bypass or gastric sleeve, you will need to rest and recover for up to six weeks after your surgery. It’ll be really difficult doing this on your own, so having people to support you and offer help when you need it will be crucial for your healing. 

If you’re preparing yourself to have surgery, consider scheduling an initial consultation with us to get all the info you need from the surgeon himself. Your surgeon will also give you the best advice about how to deliver the news to your loved ones.